A lot of resentment can build up after someone does us dirty, whether that’s through betrayal, heartbreak, or other ways.
Sure, you might feel like your feelings are justified because of what someone did to you.
But it becomes a problem when those feelings of resentment become trapped in our bodies.
Because what is it costing you for holding on to those feelings?
Your health, peace, and well-being.
The stress, the hatred, and the disdain from holding a grudge against someone just aren’t worth it.
It’s time to release that toxicity from your mind and body so no external circumstance has any control over you. And so that you can take back your power.
Here’s how you can do it, speaking from experience.
1. Recognize that you are responsible over how you feel, act, and behave.
It’s important to acknowledge what someone did was wrong. We’re not trying to downplay the situation here.
However, the first step in healing your emotions is recognizing that you are responsible over how you feel, act and behave.
Because if you victimize yourself and keep blaming the other person for how you feel, you’re giving somebody else your power. And along with that, your health, peace, and well-being for who knows how long.
And that can harm your level of self-respect, too.
Once you recognize and accept responsibility over how you feel, act, and behave, here’s the next step:
2. Decide you want to change how you feel.
How we feel affects how we act, and it affects how we are with ourselves and others around us.
So, you have to make a decision to change how you feel. Decide that you’ll do the work to release resentment from your mind and body. Decide that you’ll do the work so that the situation doesn’t bother you anymore. Decide that this will no longer have power over you.
Decide to release all grudges, resentment, and ill feelings.
Decide that you will not let the situation affect you anymore.
It may take a combination of rewriting beliefs, letting go, meditation, journaling, perspective changes, forgiveness, and more to have this happen.
Remember: you’re doing this for the sake of yourself.
Which leads me to my next point.
3. Forgive
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you leave someone ‘off the hook’ and that you deal with what they did.
We forgive so that the person’s actions no longer affect you. So that you can reclaim your power.
How do you forgive?
Well, first, decide to.
Next, you may need an avenue to process your emotions. You can do this through journaling. This will open up the pathway for you to let go.
Part of healing is being able to process, forgive, and let go of what’s not serving you.
Because your health, peace, and well-being need to come first.
You owe it to yourself.